Right now, I need to rant about how women cannot offer the same common courtesy that they demand from men. All the time you will hear, "That jerk hasn't called me back" or "He didn't tell me he had a girlfriend." Now, from a male perspective, I feel that we should be offerred the same sort of courtesy that women demand so highly. I will now make a list of rules that will help women better handle themselves during that initial "getting to know" phase of any relationship.
1. If a guy asks you for your number, at least dignify him with a no if you don't want him talking to you. Guys would much rather be turned down from the start instead of waiting a period of time before making the assumption on his own. We're all big boys here, we can handle rejection.
2. If you're currently involved with another man when a guy is interested in getting to know you, let him know. Do not assume that he is simply trying to be your friend. In the end, the guy will ultimately feel like a fool as you've been hiding the fact that you have a boyfriend. If he is interested in you, then he will leave you alone and accept the fact. If he is not, then he will respect the idea that you did tell him you had a boyfriend from the start instead of allowing that little tidbit to linger around unknown to him.
3. Ladies, if you're recently out of a bad relationship and only looking for a quick hook-up, tell the man that you are hooking up with what the situation is for you. He will undoubtedly appreciate that more than thinking it meant the same to you as it did him. The guy may not be interested in a one night fling and may expect something. Be upfront with him.
4. If you begin to date a guy and he has an annoying habit in the start of the relationship, tell him as soon as you notice it. Don't assume that it will change with him because it probably will not. If anything, it will continue to annoy you and become a bigger annoyance to you down the road. Keep the communication lines from the start open and do not get mad at the guy for being himself because you just did not speak up.
5. Be open-minded to all possibilities. If you are a woman who is not involved with anybody, but interested in another guy, be cognisant of the fact that you may not be involved with that person for a reason. Having a crush is awesome and that feeling of puppy love is wonderful, but do not let it put blinders over your eyes. There could be an even better guy interested in you, but you have shut off your ability to see him because you have become infatuated with a man that you are not even with. Ladies, I implore you, give any guy interested in you a chance. If that chance works out and you become involved, see Rule #2 if another man comes along.
That's all the rules I have for now but I'm sure there are many other guys out there who have been wronged by women just when trying to get to know them. Please add to this ever increasing list.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
How much say do friends actually have?
There comes a time in every circle of male friends when one of the guys has a girlfriend and some or all of the remaining group members despise her. I know I speak from personal experience on both sides of that situation. I have been the guy who had the girlfriend than no one liked and more recently I had the unfortunate pleasure of being the one who did not like a friend's girlfriend.
Now the question at hand is how much should a friend do to make his point clear that his friend and the girl he is currrently dating not be together. In my case, I did not feel that the two people were compatible for one another. My friend is a hardcore romantic who is searching for that one person that can be in a serious relationship with him. This is what he is looking for in a girl. The girl, however, was unsure of what she wanted but she knew she could not offer him the serious relationship. She was not at that point in her life. Now, from the start of the relationship I was adamently against it and I made that clear to him. However, he continued to pursue the relationship and it did not end well. In fact, it ended after a few short weeks. I figured he had avoided the ultimate heartbreak that would have come from this doomed relationship that he even he said would end. Although, he stated that he was willing to work and work at it in the hopes that it could ultimately lead to what he is chasing. I figured it was my duty as a friend to protect him from the heartbreak that could stem from this relationship.
A couple of days later, the girl apologizes to my friend and says they should attempt it again. I knew my friend would go for it because he's just that kind of sappy guy. Nothing wrong with that at all, though. Anyway, this is where I felt I should try to become involved. The rest of the group and I heckled him incessantly hoping that would change his mind on this relationship. It failed. He continued to see her until Valentine's Day and I still tried talking him out of it. Sadly, that Valentine's Day ended in heartache as they split up again. The relationship is certainly beyond repair this time.
Now, I feel that it is the duty of a friend to protect his closest friends from an evil woman who can take advantage of him. My counterparts argue that while my actions are noble, I should allow my friend to make his own mistake and learn from them. I do see their point of view, but it does not make sense to me. In the process of falling for a girl, a man loses all of his logical viewpoints. It is the responsibility of the friend to be that objective, outside opinion to help him out. Nobody wants to see their friends get hurt.
Your thoughts?
Now the question at hand is how much should a friend do to make his point clear that his friend and the girl he is currrently dating not be together. In my case, I did not feel that the two people were compatible for one another. My friend is a hardcore romantic who is searching for that one person that can be in a serious relationship with him. This is what he is looking for in a girl. The girl, however, was unsure of what she wanted but she knew she could not offer him the serious relationship. She was not at that point in her life. Now, from the start of the relationship I was adamently against it and I made that clear to him. However, he continued to pursue the relationship and it did not end well. In fact, it ended after a few short weeks. I figured he had avoided the ultimate heartbreak that would have come from this doomed relationship that he even he said would end. Although, he stated that he was willing to work and work at it in the hopes that it could ultimately lead to what he is chasing. I figured it was my duty as a friend to protect him from the heartbreak that could stem from this relationship.
A couple of days later, the girl apologizes to my friend and says they should attempt it again. I knew my friend would go for it because he's just that kind of sappy guy. Nothing wrong with that at all, though. Anyway, this is where I felt I should try to become involved. The rest of the group and I heckled him incessantly hoping that would change his mind on this relationship. It failed. He continued to see her until Valentine's Day and I still tried talking him out of it. Sadly, that Valentine's Day ended in heartache as they split up again. The relationship is certainly beyond repair this time.
Now, I feel that it is the duty of a friend to protect his closest friends from an evil woman who can take advantage of him. My counterparts argue that while my actions are noble, I should allow my friend to make his own mistake and learn from them. I do see their point of view, but it does not make sense to me. In the process of falling for a girl, a man loses all of his logical viewpoints. It is the responsibility of the friend to be that objective, outside opinion to help him out. Nobody wants to see their friends get hurt.
Your thoughts?
Thursday, February 12, 2009
What This Is All About?
Throughout my life I have experienced things and been around people who have given me a very unique perspective on life. This perspective is one that I feel is very contrary to the majority of views on the world. I feel I look at the world differently than most and it is my hope that I can share these views with everyone reading this and hopefully expand your mind on a variety of issues: love, friendship, success, failure, happiness, life. This blog is not meant to tell you how to live your life, but essentially explain all the differences between the world and my own views of it in an entertaining matter.
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