Right now, I need to rant about how women cannot offer the same common courtesy that they demand from men. All the time you will hear, "That jerk hasn't called me back" or "He didn't tell me he had a girlfriend." Now, from a male perspective, I feel that we should be offerred the same sort of courtesy that women demand so highly. I will now make a list of rules that will help women better handle themselves during that initial "getting to know" phase of any relationship.
1. If a guy asks you for your number, at least dignify him with a no if you don't want him talking to you. Guys would much rather be turned down from the start instead of waiting a period of time before making the assumption on his own. We're all big boys here, we can handle rejection.
2. If you're currently involved with another man when a guy is interested in getting to know you, let him know. Do not assume that he is simply trying to be your friend. In the end, the guy will ultimately feel like a fool as you've been hiding the fact that you have a boyfriend. If he is interested in you, then he will leave you alone and accept the fact. If he is not, then he will respect the idea that you did tell him you had a boyfriend from the start instead of allowing that little tidbit to linger around unknown to him.
3. Ladies, if you're recently out of a bad relationship and only looking for a quick hook-up, tell the man that you are hooking up with what the situation is for you. He will undoubtedly appreciate that more than thinking it meant the same to you as it did him. The guy may not be interested in a one night fling and may expect something. Be upfront with him.
4. If you begin to date a guy and he has an annoying habit in the start of the relationship, tell him as soon as you notice it. Don't assume that it will change with him because it probably will not. If anything, it will continue to annoy you and become a bigger annoyance to you down the road. Keep the communication lines from the start open and do not get mad at the guy for being himself because you just did not speak up.
5. Be open-minded to all possibilities. If you are a woman who is not involved with anybody, but interested in another guy, be cognisant of the fact that you may not be involved with that person for a reason. Having a crush is awesome and that feeling of puppy love is wonderful, but do not let it put blinders over your eyes. There could be an even better guy interested in you, but you have shut off your ability to see him because you have become infatuated with a man that you are not even with. Ladies, I implore you, give any guy interested in you a chance. If that chance works out and you become involved, see Rule #2 if another man comes along.
That's all the rules I have for now but I'm sure there are many other guys out there who have been wronged by women just when trying to get to know them. Please add to this ever increasing list.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
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Ouch! Not all of us are like this. That being said I think your rules should apply to both men and women. No matter now harsh it may be, honesty is definitely better to hear. It may hurt the ego a little but it's better than keeping up with lies and then everything exploding in the end. These rules are pretty incredible though.
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