Opposing Forces

Now everyone knows the classic line of "opposites attract." I believe that statement to be true, but I feel there must be both similarities and differences between two people. If the relationship is based on either extreme, then it is more than likely going to fail. Based on the aforementioned statements, I am going to rant about certain differences prohibiting individuals from testing the possibilities of their relationships.

When we all meet somebody for the first time, you are either attracted or unattracted to them for whatever reason. It's just a natural thing. If there is an attraction there, then one party or the other pursues it and attempts to continue to forge a connection with the individual. It is through this pursuit that the two individuals either find a compatibility for one another on a romantic level, friendship level, or in fact, none at all. It all really hinges upon the personalities of both people. However, I am going to specifically talk about the ability or actually the inability to pursure a more romantic relationship because of an unwillingness to accept one aspect of the other person.

I feel it is completely ridiculous to not attempt even the beginnings of a relationship because of an unwillingness to accept. I'm not attempting to say that one person's views, beliefs, or feelings are inherently wrong and and should be ignored. I feel that if two people are able to connect on a variety of levels, then they should be able to accept one another for certain aspects of their lives that they feel a strong way towards. It would be terrible to not allow yourself an opportunity with somebody whom you find that can relate to you on any level.

My opponents will argue that if two people have such opposing views on a specific belief they feel so strongly toward that it is not worth being with that person. While I can understand that perspective, it is not sensible. All relationships need some form of conflict and difference to enhance the relationship. Couples learn and grow from one another and from the ideas that they offer one another. A relationship between two similar people grows tiring. Additionally, a relationship that is bound by one common interest while every other aspect of the relationship is dissimilar is lackluster. My belief is that two people who can relate on multiple levels, but also differ on multiple levels have the beginnings of something special. However, it is important that the two people have the ability to accept one another's differences as opposed to writing them off because of those differences.

Overall, it is my hope that I was able to stir about some thought through this entry. If anyone finds themselves in this situation, then I hope that you are able to see my point of view and search for more acceptance. It would be wrong to miss out on something because you were unwilling to see a person because you can't bring yourself past certain primitive ideals.
As always, feel free to comment here or contact me in any way for a discussion.