All of that is just unnecessary

As I was staring out into the throng of people at work today, I came to the conclusion about what my next entry should be about. I am going to talk about those specific women who try far too hard to impress guys, or maybe other girls, depending upon their gender preference. However, that is besides the point. I’m not speaking about all women from here on out, but a specific group within the total female population. I noticed as I stared out into the crowds that far too many of these women were covered up with make-up, fake hair, and unnecessarily long nails that were glued on. While they were covered up with all those accessories, they were barely wearing any clothing. Honestly, some of these women did have the physiques to wear such attire and others didn’t. However, the physiques of these women do not warrant them to look trashy. In my opinion, all it does is make them look less respectable. I don’t feel that it takes a thick belt worn as a tube top and fifty pounds of make-up to look alluring. I actually feel quite contrary to that belief.

I, myself, have always been a fan of natural beauty. A woman who can put together a simple outfit that suits her body is very attractive. Additionally, she doesn’t need to apply excessive amounts of cosmetics. More often than not, the makeup hides the essence of who the girl is. Instead, all she needs to do is use the cosmetics to enhance the beauty that she already has. That is much more appealing on a woman than what I witnessed today in the masses. I do not want to be surprised by the person I see once the makeup comes off.

Also, I feel that the way a woman carries herself is adds to her attraction. A woman who walks with confidence and knows that she can handle herself is something that will definitely capture my attention much faster than a short skirt. I’m sure some guys reading this are reading this and saying, “Yeah right,” but it is true. Personally, I don’t want a timid, dependent girl seeking out my attention all the time. I’m not searching for a subservient individual to be with, but instead a counterpart. Some may argue that it is hard to tell a woman’s personality simply based on how she dresses, but I will disagree. A woman who dresses in a sophisticated manner while allowing her beauty to show through effortlessly is one who is confident in who she is and how she carries herself. That is the type of woman that I will seek out. She does not need someone else to validate her own existence.

All in all, I’m actually kind of tired of seeing these trashy women flocking to public places. Sure, they can make for some decent eye candy to some, but most of the time the guys that are ogling them are unable to even have an opportunity with these women. Frankly, those women are searching for the same self absorbed men with no confidence outside of their own physical appearance. (Those types of guys will be covered in a future entry because they often upset me as well.) I’m just hoping that some women can begin to show their natural beauty and not look as trashy.

Hope In Hope

So at some point or multiple points we come to the realization that we want to have somebody in our lives, in addition to just friends and family. Not marriage or anything, but just a relationship with somebody that is something more than casual hook-ups and flings that we all have. Even more than the cat and mouse games we tend to play with each other. While those are all enjoyable and full of pleasure, those euphoric highs are fleeting. How long can somebody just engage in casual physical attractions before it grows tiring? Over time, we subconsciously crave a deeper meaning but mask it with just the casual liaisons. The cat and mouse chases are fun and challenging, but they too grow boring after awhile. Even as new challenges come and old ones are either completed or simply deemed not worth it, the thrill of the chase always goes away. There are those times when we want to be with somebody. It’s when we feel completeness through somebody else.

Now my friend Ant once told me that we need four types of connections to fully be compatible with somebody: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. Now in an ideal world, we can find that somebody who matches up with our views or understandings on all those things. However, this is an imperfect world and we instead seek out the most important of those attributes in one person or sometimes supplement each attribute with a variety of people. The latter of which is probably not the best solution, however, it does keep us protected, but are we happy? This is the real question.

While we all search for those qualities in the hopes of finding somebody, most of us are scared to go down that path again. The path of pining over a person and doing ridiculous things that are against one’s better judgment. Is that foolishness worth it or is it not worth it if we have to act foolishly?

The fact of the matter is that if we do have to ask ourselves all of these questions and spend so much time and energy on deciding on whether it is worth it, then we probably have unknowingly answered our own question. It’s not wrong to want to be with somebody on a deeper level, but it is wrong when we have to torment ourselves before it all even begins. We exhaust ourselves before even starting the race. If that’s the case, then it clearly isn’t a race worth running. Unfortunately, we will just continue forth with our usual habits of flings and chasing until we truly find somebody that makes us want to look past all the bullshit in the way. There will not be any more work involved and instead the connection just flows. Until that point when the chase is unnecessary, the foolishness isn’t worth it, but it’s not wrong to still want to feel that way.

No Man Is An Island

My next entry is going to relate to a concept that a friend and I were discussing the other day. We were talking about the concept of interdependence as it relates to an individual living their life. No one person is able to experience life fully without help from other people, whether it is direct or indirect. Even positive and negative people and relationships shape the way in which we live our lives. The best analogy is to imagine that your life is a train ride. Your birth is the beginning station and the ultimate destination is your own passing. Along the ride, a lot of people or passengers for the sake of this analogy come aboard and others leave. The duration of their stay is also a variable length. However, each one of them leaves a lasting impression upon the train ride of your life.

During our entire life, we make and lose friends, lovers come and go, and other figures, no matter how insignificant, pass by each day. Each one of these individuals is a passenger on your ride of life, despite how briefly you know them. Nobody goes through life with the same group of friends without ever adding to it or even subtracting from it. Some people feel that the loss of these people from your life is devasating, but in reality, it was just the right time to part ways. You learned from one another all you could and there's no reason for your lives to remain intertwined. It's not a bad thing at all. We should all embrace the experiences we shared with those people and continue to move forward. The same can be said for the friends who remain on board your train ride for much longer periods of time. You must learn from one another and take from each other everything you can while the opportunity exists. Remember, the path of life has no pitstops or rest stops.

Another way in which we all lose somebody is through death. It can be a relative, a dear friend, a coworker, or just a person you spoke to in passing. Unlike the dissolving of a friendship, death is one those things that we have particularly no control over. Therefore, the timing of that departure is much more unexpected. However, the outcome is still no different that the. departure of anyone else. Regarding the death of a family member, specifically a close one, that person was undoubtedly a significant figure in your life since the beginning. The loss of them may be tough to cope with, but understand that you must take everything you learned from that person and through that you carry with you a piece of them. The lessons that they taught you will always be with you for the rest of your journey and that is all you need.

Additionally, the experiences who have with people on a romantic level are necessary as well. Everyone has had those poor relationships in which you are devastated by someone cheating on you or just quitting a successful relationship, in your opinion. The mentality of, "why did this have to happen" begins to set in and it can destory people mentally and emotionally. However, I'm going to say that it was necessary for those people who crushed you to have had that time on your ride of life. Simply said, nobody is born with all the knowledge of world. We aren't some computer application that is already preloaded with all the necessary tools we need to achieve an objective. Our journey through life isn't something we can be prepared for, but instead it is conquered through experience and the acquisition of knowledge. In the end, that girl who cheated on you after you confessed your truest feelings for her was necessary. It was a valuable lesson that needed to be learned and we all need to be taught that lesson at some point.

I know it sounds as if I'm trying to put a positive spin on many of the sad and sorrowful parts of your life, but the reality of the situation is that these things will and are going to happen to you. It's silly to pretend that they won't and it's certainly better to look at these situations with a different perspective. In conclusion, remember to take as much as you can from the people who come aboard your ride of life and accept when it is their time to depart.