No Man Is An Island

My next entry is going to relate to a concept that a friend and I were discussing the other day. We were talking about the concept of interdependence as it relates to an individual living their life. No one person is able to experience life fully without help from other people, whether it is direct or indirect. Even positive and negative people and relationships shape the way in which we live our lives. The best analogy is to imagine that your life is a train ride. Your birth is the beginning station and the ultimate destination is your own passing. Along the ride, a lot of people or passengers for the sake of this analogy come aboard and others leave. The duration of their stay is also a variable length. However, each one of them leaves a lasting impression upon the train ride of your life.

During our entire life, we make and lose friends, lovers come and go, and other figures, no matter how insignificant, pass by each day. Each one of these individuals is a passenger on your ride of life, despite how briefly you know them. Nobody goes through life with the same group of friends without ever adding to it or even subtracting from it. Some people feel that the loss of these people from your life is devasating, but in reality, it was just the right time to part ways. You learned from one another all you could and there's no reason for your lives to remain intertwined. It's not a bad thing at all. We should all embrace the experiences we shared with those people and continue to move forward. The same can be said for the friends who remain on board your train ride for much longer periods of time. You must learn from one another and take from each other everything you can while the opportunity exists. Remember, the path of life has no pitstops or rest stops.

Another way in which we all lose somebody is through death. It can be a relative, a dear friend, a coworker, or just a person you spoke to in passing. Unlike the dissolving of a friendship, death is one those things that we have particularly no control over. Therefore, the timing of that departure is much more unexpected. However, the outcome is still no different that the. departure of anyone else. Regarding the death of a family member, specifically a close one, that person was undoubtedly a significant figure in your life since the beginning. The loss of them may be tough to cope with, but understand that you must take everything you learned from that person and through that you carry with you a piece of them. The lessons that they taught you will always be with you for the rest of your journey and that is all you need.

Additionally, the experiences who have with people on a romantic level are necessary as well. Everyone has had those poor relationships in which you are devastated by someone cheating on you or just quitting a successful relationship, in your opinion. The mentality of, "why did this have to happen" begins to set in and it can destory people mentally and emotionally. However, I'm going to say that it was necessary for those people who crushed you to have had that time on your ride of life. Simply said, nobody is born with all the knowledge of world. We aren't some computer application that is already preloaded with all the necessary tools we need to achieve an objective. Our journey through life isn't something we can be prepared for, but instead it is conquered through experience and the acquisition of knowledge. In the end, that girl who cheated on you after you confessed your truest feelings for her was necessary. It was a valuable lesson that needed to be learned and we all need to be taught that lesson at some point.

I know it sounds as if I'm trying to put a positive spin on many of the sad and sorrowful parts of your life, but the reality of the situation is that these things will and are going to happen to you. It's silly to pretend that they won't and it's certainly better to look at these situations with a different perspective. In conclusion, remember to take as much as you can from the people who come aboard your ride of life and accept when it is their time to depart.